The biggest piece to this? Our attention. To our kids, there is nothing more valuable than it. The challenge is that the second our kids do something inappropriate or “wrong,” our attention radar shoots up. We talk about it. We repeat ourselves. We yell. We sigh. We lock eyes. We move closer. And what message do they get? When I mess up, I get all of you. So they do it again. We say, “You’re not listening.” “I told you to stop.” And we repeat it again. And again. And again. And wonder why nothin